I think people with kids generally tend to be more mature and makes better dates. Not always, but I think you have a better chance with someone with kids. Also it gives you a perfect opportunity to see where that person is in their lives, what you can expect from the person and what their expectation in life is. I can't imagine someone who neglect their kids treat me nicely, nor would I expect a loving mom to be a super cruel and mean date. Not always true but it's reasonably accurate I think!

I'd like to hear your thoughts

Dafan aka R6_philly aka Mr. BlackBikeWeekOnline 205 days ago

Thanks for responding to my post, Dafan! For the record, I'm pretty much in agreement with your sentiments. According to my own experiences, people with children usually possess more maturity  when compared to those who don't. Plus, GOOD parents are much more likely to be patient, understanding, somewhat organized and are at times a lot less selfish when compared to men and women without kids. These attributes have a tendency of spilling over into their dating natures and habits (habits I happen to find quite pleasantly refreshing). On the flipside, however, are the inevitable last-minute scheduling changes that are often solved with a tiny bit of creativity.

nanapeppa 203 days ago

I agree to a certain percent of what nanapeppa and Dafan have said. Two years ago I met a woman who goes against the grain. She has 2 sons by 2 different men. Her youngest son goes to his grandparents (not his father's) house EVERY weekend. The son comes home and reports that 80% of the time he doesn't even see his father, who lives right here in the same town. The oldest son is of age to where he can stay at home alone. I ask her how she justifies shipping the kid off every Friday like clockwork. She does it because the grandparents buys the kid anything he wants. She doesn't have to spend much money on him. This woman would rather spend every moment of her time doing something with me versus with her kids. She never keeps the younger one on a weekend. She thinks this is the time she and I should hit the town all weekend or go away on weekend trips. She will drop money on gifts at the drop of a hat. I love the fact that she is willing to go all out for me, but what mother or father doesn't want to spend quality time with their child? She works 12 or more hours a day Monday through Friday and some Saturdays. Where is the quality time with the kids? If I say lets go, she is packing and ready. In 2 years, I have never had her tell me she took the kids out to dinner. Actually sit down in a restaurant and eat. They have done the movies 2 times. Yet, she and I have seen 4 or 5 movies. I don't get it!

Video 197 days ago

I have a daughter of my own. I work weird hours all throughout the week. Weekends are the time where I like to do whatever makes my daughter happy. The woman who I mentioned earlier will call all day while I am with my daughter to see what we are doing etc. etc. She doesn't understand why I don't want to talk to her while I am trying to spend quality time with my own. I feel that if she spent more quality time with her own, she would be more understanding of me spending time with mine.
Ideally you would think a parent would have some understanding, patience, and be less selfish to their own needs. Unfortunately, this isn't true about all parents.

Video 197 days ago

Great post man. I agree with alot that you said.

suresh ramesh 192 days ago

I was hoping for a bit of insight, but never did I expect such a candid observational articulation of your own personal experience, Video! And while I read (and read again) with great appreciation the specificities of your situation, one can only wonder - without judgement - what attracting factor holds the two of you together. You've managed a relationship for the past two years and continue to do so. Obviously, the pros are continuously outweighing the cons.

nanapeppa 192 days ago

I deal with it because of my feelings for her, but she probably would never make it to "wifey" stage.

Video 169 days ago

She is a fun person when she isn't on some b.s. She is attentive, caring, and has a heart of gold. She will do whatever she can to help you if you need it. She just has other issues.

Video 169 days ago